If the first time your family is talking about your charitable legacy is at your funeral, then I think you may have waited too long. But it happens all the time. And when it does, it’s only natural that your loved ones might be inclined to support a charity associated with how you died rather than those that enriched how you lived. It’s a normal reaction in the moment.
But rather than leave such an important decision to the last minute, with someone who will need to make many important last-minute decisions for you, consider creating your own charitable legacy now with a letter from the heart.